A latency-age boy possesses monumental erectile capacity. When ejaculation isn't present, he can progress from one orgasm to the next without needing to rest. From about age eight he notes a buildup phase which intensifies his pleasure. Ejaculations may begin as early as nine or ten. The middle-class boy may attempt vaginal penetration, but as neither he nor his partner is experienced, he usually settles for rubbing against the labia. The child of the slum may already have had coitus with multiple partners.
"Nudist party" is a liberated version of strip poker in
which frolics and fantasy abound. All but the most constricted
are inspired to enact themes that are common only
on the analyst's couch. In one such party, a boy who unwittingly
referred to his penis as a "wiener" was lavished with
all the accouterments including bun, ketchup, mustard, and
relish.
His "wiener" remained happily erect in spite of the
ketchup, which was fresh from the refrigerator. It was still
too small for the bun, a fact which only increased the merriment.
In another such party, girls decorated each available
penis with streamers, balloons, and a painted face. In "nudist
party" boys receive the lion's share of attention and a prodigious
increase in penis pride.
Although most sex games are for fun, sex may occasionally
be used to subjugate and degrade, as with Warren in Chapter
5. There are irresponsible children just as there are irresponsible
adults. For some, sex is already a vehicle for anger and
proof of power.
The games employed by perverse children are
simpler in design and focus upon rapid unilateral gratification.
Wrestling is a game which becomes increasingly erotic in
latency. It's an excellent excuse for rubbing and holding that
commonly ends in exhaustion when played by responsible
children.
An irresponsible child can use wrestling to coerce
or debase. He chooses a smaller, weaker partner and attacks
when there is little chance of rescue.
The victim feels profoundly
helpless, used, and abused. One such boy wrestled a
weaker girl to the ground, forced a kiss, and then threw sand
in her face. An eight-year-old girl subdued a smaller boy and
sat on his chest while she pinned his arms with her feet. She
then pulled his pants down in front of his friends and sauntered
off.
An irresponsible boy may use both physical and
psychological pressures to violate a weaker child by forcing
him to perform fellatio. The aggressor feels powerful and the
victim degraded.
The child who is that callous has usually
led a disturbed and chaotic life. He has often been the victim
of the same shoddy exploitation at the hands of an older child
or adult.
"Chicken" is a sex game that is played by irresponsible
children who shrewdly apply psychological pressure. Any
child who refuses to cooperate is automatically a coward. The
victim is a youngster with low self-esteem who doesn't feel
potent enough to refuse, scream, run, or fight. "Chicken" is
tasteless and unimaginative. The following example
occurred in a grade-school playground.
Eddie threatened to tell the school principal that Chuck
called him an "asshole." Chuck didn't remember saying that,
but Eddie seemed certain. Eddie dramatized how the principal
would twist Chuck's ear and expel him from school. If
Chuck would join in a fun game, "chicken," then Eddie would
forgive and forget.
Chuck reluctantly chose to play. Eddie
ordered him to scale the elm tree. Chuck couldn't even touch
the bottom branch. Therefore Chuck was a "chicken" and
Eddie could issue him any one command. Eddie graciously
offered Chuck the choice of two alternatives.